I recently went through a purge of Facebook friends, trying to remove people I rarely interact with. (I’ll wait while you go check if you made the cut.)
Facebook creates relational clutter. It’s life support for relationships that would have naturally died years ago.
Facebook is life support for relationships that would have naturally died years ago. Click To Tweet
Don’t get me wrong. I love social media, and it’s often wonderful to have a way to reconnect with people from our past. But the truth is very few relationships last forever. Curating a healthy relational perspective involves pruning. Doing so reminds us of the value of relationships. The fact that many relationships are temporary should encourage us to experience them as much as we can in that time.
Most friendships are the product of two life-paths overlapping. They last until those paths diverge. When the time comes, you part ways and steadily journey out of earshot and then out of sight. It’s normal and it’s healthy.
Facebook, however, changes that natural process. It creates a false sense of connectedness. We don’t like letting people go. Friendships that fade away are not always a sign that someone made a mistake, often they are a sign that you are continuing on your journey.Friendships that fade away are not always a sign that someone made a mistake.Click To Tweet
Releasing old connections is how we make new ones.
In the end, it’s not really about who is on your friends list. Are you ok not being friends with someone anymore? Are you comfortable pulling the plug on relationships that are in a comatose state? If there is little chance of resuscitating that friendship, can you accept that it’s a natural part of relational life and move on?
For me, I’ve found great freedom in acknowledging some friendships don’t last. And to be honest, I probably wouldn’t even think about those people anymore. That is, if it wasn’t for my darned Facebook friends list.